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10 Mistakes People with ADD/ADHD Make Part 2

As promised earlier in the week, here’s the top 5.  With permission from Frank Coppola.

5. BELIEVES MEDICATION ALONE WILL HELP THEM

You’ve gotten diagnosed by one of the experts in the medical field. You’re taking the medication and now you’re even clearer and more focused on the things you’ve been having difficulty with all these years.
“The pill doesn’t give you the skill”

To be successful in a world created by people who don’t have ADD/ADHD it’s best to learn everything you can about your ADD/ADHD and how it affects you. Strategies that maximize your strengths can be developed specifically for you; ones that can make you more productive and ones that can enhance the quality of your life.

4. PAYS MORE ATTENTION TO WHAT DOESN’T WORK

Isn’t that the way the world is supposed to work?

You work on those areas in your life that you know that once you’ve learned how to do what is so difficult, you’ll be successful, Not!

Do you feel frustrated because you’re not satisfied at what you’re doing no matter how successful you are? If you could only find what you are passionate at and what you love do.

Your passion for what you want to accomplish in life lies in developing your strengths and not eliminating your weaknesses. Weaknesses diminish and drain you. Strengths energize you. Strengths can ONLY be developed by identifying your natural talents. If unidentified talents continue to be unrecognized and remain dormant, they can become unused potential which is a major cause of frustration.

Learn to pay attention to those things that come easy and natural.

3. BLAMES THEIR ADD/ADHD

How many times have you ever wondered why me?

ADD/ADHD is biological; a bio-neurological disorder. It’s about chemistry- nothing personal; like being born nearsighted. Learn how your brain works. Learn to value your brain’s chemistry and how it affects YOUR ADD/ADHD. Your brain is wired with a different kind of circuitry than the average Joe or Jane.

Different parts of your brain shape your ability to accomplish your goals, set priorities or make decisions.

By gaining knowledge of the special way your brain works along with your unique learning habits, working style and areas of strength, you can stop blaming yourself and focus on the things that bring you satisfaction, productivity and success.

Success grows as we experience success. We work through our challenges with practice, dedication and commitment knowing fully we can reach our goals. By paying attention to what works, your ability to see and experience the world grows and your self-esteem increases.

2. HAS NOT LEARNED HOW TO TRUST THEIR ADD AND THEMSELVES

Learn to trust your add. Trust is one of the most essential components in any relationship

including our relationship with ourselves.

Trust in yourself. To do so, trust in your abilities to succeed with ADD/ADHD.

Learn the essential characteristics and distinctions of trust.

Learn to question negative belief systems that are holding you back or that you find you’re putting up with. You best do this with the observations, skills and encouragement of your coaches. From here, your set upon your mission de-signed by, with, and for you.

Learn to embrace that your dreams are yours to be fulfilled. You have the ability to find what you love to do and fully engage and enjoy your life.

To benefit from new information, believe in yourself. Trust in yourself and question your beliefs that keep you small. You can learn from those people who are there to support you with encouragement.  Learn to stay away from those who give you back-handed compliments.

Above all learn to trust in yourself.

1. DOESN’T BELIEVE ADD/ADHD CAN BE THEIR GREATEST ASSET

A survey by the National Institute of Health stated that people living with ADD/ADHD feel they cannot reach their dreams, goals and desires. Plus they feel their minds in a whirl. Ever feel that way? I know I have but I realized…

ADD/ADHD is not connected to your character, lack of motivation, desire or intelligence. You did nothing wrong. It is not your fault. You don’t need to be working harder and you certainly don’t need to be fixed.

It’s time to change the way you look at ADD/ADHD.

Recognize and accept that the only thing wrong with ADD/ADHD was you didn’t know it was there. AND If you were diagnosed didn’t learn a new set of skills designed and developed around YOUR symptoms, signs and behaviors of ADD/ADHD.  There is no doubt you can work through whatever you believe has been holding you back.

People with ADD/ADHD have unique abilities and imagination. You can harness and direct your positive ADD/ADHD attributes based upon your unique brain wiring. ADD/ADHD can be used to your competitive advantages. ADHD can be your greatest asset in reaching your dreams, goals and desires.

EXERCISE
Where can I apply one of these principles in my life? Write it down and take one action step.

The scoop on Frank is here:
Frank Coppola, MAEd, Ontological Designer, Senior Certified AD/HD Coach (SCAC), Executive Business Adviser
www.ADDCoachingGroup.com
www.AddingPerspective.com
www.twitter.com/frankcoppola514
www.twitter.com/focus4profits

Benefit with ADD – A Winning Philosophy for Maximizing Your Natural Gifts
Crack the Code to Personal and Professional Prosperity and Success More Money, More Time, More Focus

Some of you know I have ADD/ADHD clients and family members which is why I subscribe to a newsletter from Frank Coppola. Frank was generous enough to let me share his post with you.

10 Mistakes People with ADD/ADHD Make Part 1

Chew on the first five for now. We’ll finish them off later in the week.

10. BEING IN DENIAL

You know that you’re not firing on all cylinders. You may even think you may have ADD/ADHD but you don’t want to find out. You may be worried all your creativity will be lost.

Your mistake is you don’t understand how your ADD/ADHD behavior and symptoms affect you. You’re not alone. 85% of adults with AD/HD are undiagnosed and untreated. In addition, 30-40% of self-employed and entrepreneurs have the behavior or symptoms of a person living with ADD/ADHD.

By educating yourself about ADD/ADHD and specifically your ADD/ADHD you can tune up your engine for optimum success.

9. A TENDENCY TO OVER-PROMISE AND UNDER-DELIVER

Have you ever been in situations when you impulsively told your loved ones or business person you could deliver the goods?

There may have been a situation when you told a friend you absolutely were going to pick them up at the airport on time, “Count on it!” But somehow it took you 45 minutes more. This can happen in so many areas of your life whether they are paying the bills or making sure you’ve contacting your clients.

It’s not unusual for people living with ADD/ADHD to make decisions without taking a breath and in so doing miscalculate what’s needed to get what you promised done.

What you’ll need to do is learn to pause before you promise and to practice remembering your tendency to over-promise and under-deliver. In time, practice can be your greatest ally

8. CAN’T COMPLETE WHAT GETS STARTED

Have you ever been on a roll? The ideas are popping. Creativity is busting at the seams. You’re out of the gate, leading the charge but eventually lose interest without completing with you started. You’re in “Frustration City” without a road map.

You see the entire picture of what it should look like and conceptually how the pieces should fit together but you can’t identify things to do first or how to figure out how to prioritize.

Maybe, just maybe, completion is not your strong suit but being an idea generator is your forte.

The key to completion is to have a clear picture of what you want to accomplish. Use your senses. Start at the end-then work backwards. You know you want it done yesterday but your best bet is to work in small burst of energy using your amazing enthusiasm and overview. When you get bored stop whatever is holding you back. Change the mood. In about 20 minutes, you should be ready to start again. Small is good!

7. ABSORBED IN NEGATIVE SELF-TALK

Have you ever had someone compliment you on a job well done, but you find yourself telling them it was no big deal?

You may spend an enormous amount of energy listening and reliving your past failures; the things you haven’t accomplished or achieved; undervaluing your successes. You may think that all that chatter talk is actually you.

Become aware of the negative beliefs you have lived with for too long. In so doing, you can mentally transform your failures into learning experiences. It could be a mindset thing such as there are no mistakes, but only continued skill-building.

It’s actually a good idea to question and debate that chatter and use that negative energy to produce positive traction in your life.

6. LISTENS TO THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS AS THOUGH THEY WERE FACT

Have you ever doubted a decision because someone questioned it? There are those who want nothing better than to “help you” by pointing out all the things you could be doing to get better.

Shakespeare had it right. “To thine own self be true”. Believe in who you are and what you do without seeking the approval of negative people and their beliefs.

Understand you often have special abilities that are hidden. When properly tapped, guided and developed, these abilities can be a well-spring of creativity and personal growth. Adults with ADD/ADHD tend to be the non-conformists – people who choose to take the road less traveled. Your mind is trying to process more information at a faster rate than the rest of the world surrounding you.

Every great invention, every great company, every great work of art, one of a kind idea was created by someone who saw something no one else did; just like you! Others may be more schooled than you or even brighter than you, but the world celebrates those people whose brains make “unusual” connections- the unseen relationship. This is the essence of creativity, invention and innovation.

Watch later in the week for the remaining 5. They just may surprise you.

The scoop on Frank is here:
Frank Coppola, MAEd, Ontological Designer, Senior Certified AD/HD Coach (SCAC), Executive Business Adviser
www.ADDCoachingGroup.com
www.AddingPerspective.com
www.twitter.com/frankcoppola514
www.twitter.com/focus4profits

Benefit with ADD – A Winning Philosophy for Maximizing Your Natural Gifts
Crack the Code to Personal and Professional Prosperity and Success More Money, More Time, More Focus