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Some of you know I have ADD/ADHD clients and family members which is why I subscribe to a newsletter from Frank Coppola. Frank was generous enough to let me share his post with you.

10 Mistakes People with ADD/ADHD Make Part 1

Chew on the first five for now. We’ll finish them off later in the week.

10. BEING IN DENIAL

You know that you’re not firing on all cylinders. You may even think you may have ADD/ADHD but you don’t want to find out. You may be worried all your creativity will be lost.

Your mistake is you don’t understand how your ADD/ADHD behavior and symptoms affect you. You’re not alone. 85% of adults with AD/HD are undiagnosed and untreated. In addition, 30-40% of self-employed and entrepreneurs have the behavior or symptoms of a person living with ADD/ADHD.

By educating yourself about ADD/ADHD and specifically your ADD/ADHD you can tune up your engine for optimum success.

9. A TENDENCY TO OVER-PROMISE AND UNDER-DELIVER

Have you ever been in situations when you impulsively told your loved ones or business person you could deliver the goods?

There may have been a situation when you told a friend you absolutely were going to pick them up at the airport on time, “Count on it!” But somehow it took you 45 minutes more. This can happen in so many areas of your life whether they are paying the bills or making sure you’ve contacting your clients.

It’s not unusual for people living with ADD/ADHD to make decisions without taking a breath and in so doing miscalculate what’s needed to get what you promised done.

What you’ll need to do is learn to pause before you promise and to practice remembering your tendency to over-promise and under-deliver. In time, practice can be your greatest ally

8. CAN’T COMPLETE WHAT GETS STARTED

Have you ever been on a roll? The ideas are popping. Creativity is busting at the seams. You’re out of the gate, leading the charge but eventually lose interest without completing with you started. You’re in “Frustration City” without a road map.

You see the entire picture of what it should look like and conceptually how the pieces should fit together but you can’t identify things to do first or how to figure out how to prioritize.

Maybe, just maybe, completion is not your strong suit but being an idea generator is your forte.

The key to completion is to have a clear picture of what you want to accomplish. Use your senses. Start at the end-then work backwards. You know you want it done yesterday but your best bet is to work in small burst of energy using your amazing enthusiasm and overview. When you get bored stop whatever is holding you back. Change the mood. In about 20 minutes, you should be ready to start again. Small is good!

7. ABSORBED IN NEGATIVE SELF-TALK

Have you ever had someone compliment you on a job well done, but you find yourself telling them it was no big deal?

You may spend an enormous amount of energy listening and reliving your past failures; the things you haven’t accomplished or achieved; undervaluing your successes. You may think that all that chatter talk is actually you.

Become aware of the negative beliefs you have lived with for too long. In so doing, you can mentally transform your failures into learning experiences. It could be a mindset thing such as there are no mistakes, but only continued skill-building.

It’s actually a good idea to question and debate that chatter and use that negative energy to produce positive traction in your life.

6. LISTENS TO THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS AS THOUGH THEY WERE FACT

Have you ever doubted a decision because someone questioned it? There are those who want nothing better than to “help you” by pointing out all the things you could be doing to get better.

Shakespeare had it right. “To thine own self be true”. Believe in who you are and what you do without seeking the approval of negative people and their beliefs.

Understand you often have special abilities that are hidden. When properly tapped, guided and developed, these abilities can be a well-spring of creativity and personal growth. Adults with ADD/ADHD tend to be the non-conformists – people who choose to take the road less traveled. Your mind is trying to process more information at a faster rate than the rest of the world surrounding you.

Every great invention, every great company, every great work of art, one of a kind idea was created by someone who saw something no one else did; just like you! Others may be more schooled than you or even brighter than you, but the world celebrates those people whose brains make “unusual” connections- the unseen relationship. This is the essence of creativity, invention and innovation.

Watch later in the week for the remaining 5. They just may surprise you.

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Frank Coppola, MAEd, Ontological Designer, Senior Certified AD/HD Coach (SCAC), Executive Business Adviser
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